@sabinevanderzwan3288
She is so right, trust your instinct. I remember, as a 16-year-old girl, we were at our local festive week and on our way home to be offered a lift from a friend of a friend, and I was ushered into his car it was alright; he would drive me home, as we were driving, he said that he just had to get something from his home, he drove to the camp where he lived but then carried on driving into a field he got out of his car and went to the boot of his car. It was dark, close to midnight, and I felt a woosh of fear while sitting in the passenger seat. I just opened the door and ran towards the road took a giant leap over the ditch with water that was bordering the road. I don't know if he was going to do something, but it felt so wrong and strange for him to drive into a field and then go to the boot of his car that I wasn't going to ask and just had a flight response.
@KasunGamage
Deciding NOT to have sex with just anyone means having discipline ,self-control, also and sexul empowerment..
@elladavies8380
It is bizarre to me that these are considered 'unpopular opinions.' As a woman I completely relate to everything Louise said.
@colinboniface194
How refreshingly rewarding it is to watch such an intelligent conversation on human interaction... I didn't expect such a high quality, confident expression of opinion...
@TharsisianRegion
The most heartbreaking thing about this talk is hear about young women who don’t really want sex, go along with it because it’s now the social norm. I hope they get the message, it’s not worth doing something you don’t really want to do just because it’s normal now. Having sex never a way to get commitment from a man. It costs a woman the most and is least effective.
@scottparish6666
'Unpopular' ? Seriously ? What this woman speaks is common sense & of no surprise to anyone able to think critically
@gealove3007
I remember all the sexual encounters I had when I was a teenager, I never initiated it nor wanted to do it. It was always the guy initiating and I went with it because I just thought it was the cool thing to do or I wanted to “please” the guy I liked and all my friends were doing it. I don’t remember a time where I really wanted to do it or not felt pressured. Casual sex left me with a lot of trauma, I’m in my 30’s now and I wish I was more educated on the subject back then so I wouldn’t have gone through that. I’m happy that you are speaking on this topic cause is SUPER important, parents should teach you these things but sometimes they fail, thanks.
@TheIndieMusicSource
Ex-female fire fighter here, I completely agree with what Louise has said about not lowering standards to try to get more women into the field. I believe women have a place in these professions, but at no point should the standard ever be lower for them. Everyone should be held to the same standard, plain and simple. Especially when it comes to the safety of others. Politics has not place when it comes to someone's life.
@wanderingromance
Casual sex just never made sense to me, always seemed like disassociation was essential to making it feel “casual” “comfortable” and “normal”. It just doesn’t add up. Most humans would never share a toothbrush with another human, but having sexual encounters (swapping body fluids sexually, letting someone inside you/ being inside of someone - which literally is the closest you can ever get in all senses, and simply being intimate) is considered less icky/bizarre than that? It just proves that we are conditioned to be casual about our bodies/ minds/ souls in this specific way as a social thing. It’s so backwards. Someone can have sex with you and not actually care about your well-being in the slightest… I’d much prefer to be cared for primarily and know someone intimately (in the non sexual way), then later have sex with that person. It just makes so much more sense, and yet you’re likely to be made to feel like a fool for wanting the latter and not the former😅 This is why I’m a huge fan of not explaining self. Just saying no when someone makes sexual advancements is more than sufficient and that is a culture that should go viral.
@scoop1871
I’m so glad someone is finally telling the truth and doesn’t care what society thinks. The fact that it is “unpopular” or “controversial” for a woman to prioritize her mental and emotional health and not give herself away to any guy speaks volumes about how much society has “progressed.” If only more women would come together and be heard because casual sex doesn’t serve us. Casual sex may feel good in the moment but it almost always leaves women feeling empty, used, and unfulfilled. We need to speak up and change the culture.
@Ginaaandre
I am teaching high-school. In a volunteering programme I showed them the percentage of underage mums in Romania and also some explicit pictures of sexually transmitted diseases, I told them when drinking with groups to never lose themselves because one fun night might turn into a tragedy. I was double questioning myself if I should approach this matter because “freedom” now is acceptable. One of the girls came to me and told me I was exaggerating. Fast forward several months later she asked to meet me privately, broke up crying saying she was almost SA at a party by one of her closest male friends and by luck she escaped. Her mate remembered what I told them and warned her about keeping her drink safe and in her hand. That one went safe and sound home and this one got traumatised. Her tears were terrible. We are not exaggerating, especially with teenagers.
@phatcat3705
I never had this problem. I was never able to attract any guy at all, which made me very frustrated and angry, but, looking back, this might've been a blessing in disguise. My sister, who is 18 months younger, had her first encounter when she was barely 16 by a 25 year old, who used her, which traumatized her and ruined every relationship she's had since.
@elismycat
Steve you are one of the best interviewers out there! No ego, you listen with the intent to learn and understand, no agression, judgement or bias. Great questions and elegance.
@lynclarke6184
Steven is the best interviewer because he really listens to his guests without pedantic comments or obvious judgement. Love his podcasts.
@NAVEENKUMAR-pu8yd
As a father to several daughters i fear for the future and consistently work to educate them on trusting your instincts. Excellent episode
@IdreamIsoar
It boils down to mutual respect. The problem lies with generations of the male gender looking down on the female gender based on patriarchal notions of valued characteristics rather than accepting that males and females have different characteristics that complement each other.
@JesiErin
I love that she gave it a name: “empathy gap.” Closing the empathy gap between men and women in both directions is a good first step. Being married for 10 years and raising a son has helped me with that, but growing up with only sisters made me pretty oblivious to the male psyche in my early years.
@FortressOfTheWolfMoon
I’m pregnant for the first time and I’ve waited my whole life for this man and this baby and it means the world to me.
@queenj.8i895
Sex is never casual even when ppl try to treat it that way. Too many males and females just don’t understand what they’re really engaging in and opening themselves up to. We need a lot more teaching and talks like this. 🙏🏽⚡️🔥❤️🔥
@TheDiaryOfACEO