@rachelroscoe5618
"Low quality" relationship is such an eye-opening phrase!
@lolathesinger8192
That whole „trust your gut“ thing is soo funny and weird to me as someone with generalized anxiety disorder, because 95% of the time my gut instinct is just a non-specific and very unhelpful „OH NO SOMETHING‘S WRONG“.
@alphamuplays1669
The most important thing ive learned about relationships is you are better off being happy and alone than together and miserable, if your not happy alone you will stay in any relationship just to not feel that loneliness
@angc214
Ghosting is a big pet peeve of mine. When I was dating, that really irked me. If i wasn't interested, I would tell her. At least tell the person you're not interested. When I was rejected like that, i didn't like it but I respected their decision.
@OpaqueGhostBoo
I've heard "dating for women is a swamp, dating for men is a desert.". They're both difficult, but for different reasons. Women have a harder time finding someone who is safe and comfortable through all the creeps, and men have a harder time finding someone who matches their needs in the much smaller pool.
@catttyun
We NEED to have more open and frequent conversations about how people (especially men) can approach other people in public without making them uncomfortable!! This is and HAS been such a valuable and important method of forming community and dating that we shouldn't let die
@selunescorpio
Taking notes watching this video when I’ve never been in a relationship, nor have any dating prospects.
@nicoledb341
My now boyfriend met me outside and we talked and he gave me his number on a piece of paper to say if you are ever interested to talk further or meet here is my number. And i felt no pressure, he did not ask for mine at all. Which as a cis hetero woman i loved. And i feel so safe with him and we communicate really good.
@pops_537
For a lot of people, the best way to meet others is via friends and interest groups. e.g. My parents and grandparents met via friends. My brother met his wife at a Bible study. My son just got married, and met his wife in a DnD group. (I married a high school classmate that I became friends with before we started dating. We were married for 20 years; sadly, we're now divorced. I think the underlying friendship was what made the marriage last that long.)
@mikewalters3048
As a relatively old dude rooted in the past, two things I have learned through experience, nothing but experience. Those are, amorous desires for a particular person wane over time, a relatively short time, truth be told, and there has to be more to the relationship if it is to survive. And #2, I wish that when I was 20, I had the knowledge and casual attitude towards women that I have now, after a jillion years of experience. Rejection is farrr less stressful, while approaching women is far easier.
@kobold_sushi_executive_chef
ASD/ADHD individual here, I don't really feel those initial pulses of 'chemistry' or physical attraction in the early stages of getting to know someone. This makes dating difficult because the other person tends to not know that I might be interested, as it takes getting to know them on an emotional and intellectual level before I start feeling attracted to them at all, and I'm still very reserved at that point. Most people make that unconscious decision much earlier into knowing someone, and it makes me feel out of rhythm with the way others find romantic connections. I'm leaving this here for anyone who has had the same experiences to let you know that you're not crazy, and there's nothing wrong with the way you want to love and be loved. I'm personally trying to find a better way to outwardly communicate this, and it may still limit my chances to find the right person, but doing it any other way would feel like an inauthentic connection to me.
@manilkasheran2934
Love how she basically repeats what we already know but with more credibility and conviction since she's an academic. Also she's exactly who I'd picture a sexuality professor to look like...the glasses...I can't!
@bladdyboi2962
Im sure the comments on this one will be civil
@86fifty
13:00 - That's me!!! I feel incredibly disadvantaged in dating, because of that preference. I'd rather have the serious discussions early, for reassurance, and THEN get romantic once I feel safe with a new person. But apparently, it's much more common to seek to feel emotionally safe BEFORE having serious discussions! A real catch-22 :(
@PCampbell361
Her name ending with "lova" is very pleasing
@answer5092
The question at 14:04 also has to do with the fact that attachment styles aren't neat little boxes that humans can fit into. They're tendencies, patterns, and just because you've mainly adopted one, it doesn't mean you can't have behaviors that are more characteristic of a different style. It's more complex than "I have an anxious attachment style, so I'm gonna be needy with everyone I meet."
@victor1945
The only "public" I ever approach anyone in is a bar, at least mostly. Feels so insanely awkward to hit on someone doing their shopping or something.
@OneShotToMillions
Meeting strangers on the street and dating apps are not the only ways to meet people. A lot of people meet through common friends or relatives.
@lokelosk
Completely unrelated, but her accent slipping when she says "relationship" is kind of charming. Now, on a related note, the thing about attachment styles kinda explains a lot of stuff about relationship dynamics. That's pretty interesting.
@aaroncooper4237